6TH MARINE CORPS DISTRICT, S.C., June 2, 2004 — It’s not unusual for a father to be extensively involved in his son’s decisions especially one that will send his precious offspring down one of life’s most arduous journeys, like Marine Corps recruit training. What is unusual, however, is for that parent to follow the child on that journey.
C.J. D’Alesandro joined the Delayed Entry Program earlier this year after many conversations with Sgt. Brandon Jamison, canvassing recruiter for Recruiting Substation Columbia, S.C.
Four months after C.J. made the decision to join, his father, Terence, 36, made the same commitment, also after talking with Jamison.
For Terence, the decision was easier than it may seem. He had already served more than six years in the Marine Corps, from 1990 through 1996.
Leaving the Corps in 1996 was a tougher decision. Terence was thrust into a situation where he had to decide between taking orders that would land him overseas, or leaving the Corps and drudging through a long, pain-staking process of obtaining full custody of his teenage son.
The decision to leave the Marine Corps had been tearing at him for the better part of eight years.
“C.J.’s mother asked if I could take him for a while when he was close to about 13 years old,” said Terence. “I was getting ready to get orders overseas and knew taking over custody and having to leave him with someone while I went overseas would be wrong.”
After leaving the Corps, Terence took a civilian job, finished his degree in sociology from South Carolina State University and most importantly, began to build a relationship with his son.
“Going from being single to living with a 13-year-old young man was a bit of a transition for me,”Terence said smiling. “It was something I was clueless about.”
C.J.’s approach to the matter didn’t exactly help.
“I was a little hardheaded,” C.J. said grinning. “I was 13 and thought I knew everything.” |