How to Help a Friend Who is in an Abusive
Relationship
The most common place
that teens turn to for help
is their friends. If a friend
confides in you that he/
she is being victimized, or
if you suspect that he/she
is in an abusive relationship, here are some
things that you can do to help.
If you notice signs of abuse, don’t ignore it.
Talk to your friend about it in private. Don’t
confront him/her in a public place. Let him/
her know you are there for him/her.
Express your concerns. Cite specific
examples of when you witnessed abuse.
Tell him/her that he/she deserves better and
that the abuse is not his/her fault.
Make sure to be honest and believe what
your friend says.
Support. Don’t judge. Listen.
Don’t spread gossip. Honor and protect
confidences.
Tell him/her that you’re there for him/her
whenever he/she wants to talk.
Don’t try to force your friend to do anything
he/she does not want to do. Let them make
their own decisions.
Help your friend take action – offer to get
information for your friend, assist your friend
in developing a plan, help your friend find
and talk to a supportive adult, find the
number for a crisis hotline, etc.
Call in reinforcements – Find an adult you
can talk to and try to bring your friend along.
Don’t carry the burden alone. Encourage
your friend to confide in a trusted adult.
Call the police if you witness an assault.
Encourage your friend to build a wide
support system.
Recognize if your friend needs medical
attention – he/she may not realize how badly
he/she is hurt.
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