Warning Signs Many teen victims may not recognize when they are in an abusive relationship. The following questions are designed to help you think about your own relationships and determine whether you or someone you know is the victim of teen dating violence. If, after answering these questions, you think that you or someone you know may be in an abusive relationship, talk to someone and seek out more information about where to get help. Does your boyfriend or girlfriend... Discourage you from pursuing your own interests? Act extremely jealous when you talk to other people, always page you, or demand to know who you are with? Embarrass you in front of his/her or your friends or make you feel stupid by calling you names? Force you to do anything sexually that you don't want to do, such as forcing you to have sex without protection? Make you afraid to say no to him/her or scare and threaten you if you don't agree? Make all of the decisions in the relationship, such as what to do and who to hang out with? Try to control you by being bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, and not taking your opinions seriously? Make your family and friends uneasy and concerned for your safety? Say that it's your fault when he/she hurts you? Have you... Lost interest in things that used to be important to you, such as sports, friends, or other activities? Apologized for your partner's behavior when he/she has done something wrong to you? Had a change in weight, appearance or grades since dating this person? Been worried about upsetting your partner? Stopped hanging out with friends you had before you started dating? Types of abuse What is a healthy relationship?