TALKING ABOUT YOUR
CHOICES
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IT'S ALL ABOUT TALKING
This booklet introduces you and your loved ones to the
issues surrounding end-of-life decision making. It's all about talking- talking
to your loved ones about your health care preferences; talking to your doctor
about your options so that you can make informed decisions. Talking before a
crisis can help you and your loved ones prepare for any difficult decisions
related to health care at the end of life.
Exploring your thoughts and talking about your choices is
an ongoing process. Start by planning for your end-of-life care.
Contact us at Partnership for Caring: America's Voices for
the Dying if you have any questions. And refer to the resource list for other
agencies and organizations that might be helpful to you.
Quick Guide to Contents:(click
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1.
Advance care planning
2. Talking about the issues
3. Talking with family and friends
4. Talking with your doctor
5. Preparing the right advance directive
6.
Talking with your health care agent
7.
Acting as a health care agent
8.
Understanding life-support measures
9.
Learning about pain management
10. Glossary
11. Resources
1. Advance care
planning
You can prepare for a
potential medical crisis by taking steps today that ensure your participation in
future health care decisions :
2. Talking about the
issues
The following questions may help you discuss these issues with family, loved
ones and an agent:
3. Talking with family and friends
Decisions about end-of-life medical treatments are deeply personal and should
be based on your values and beliefs. Because it is impossible to foresee every
type of circumstance or illness, it is essential to think in general about the
quality of life that is important to you. You should consider your:
4. Talking with your doctor
Do not wait until a crisis occurs before discussing concerns about end-of-life
treatments with your doctor. Chances are that he or she is waiting for you to
start the conversation. When you discuss your concerns and choices:
5. Preparing the right advance directive
Talking with loved ones, friends and others close to you helps determine your
preferences concerning end-of-life treatments. Make certain that those preferences
will be respected even if you lose the ability to participate in your health
care decisions: sign an advance directive. "Advance directive" is a general
term that describes two types of legal documents that "speak" for you in the
event of incapacity:
6. Talking with your health care
agent
Your agent should be a
person whom you trust, who knows your wishes about medical treatment and who is
willing to take responsibility to ensure your wishes are followed.
Appointing an agent or accepting such an appointment can
raise questions you might never have considered. you may reach a deepened
understanding of yourself and your relationship with the person you appoint or
who appoints you. Taking time to talk about the issues can be a rewarding
experience in itself.
SELECTING AN AGENT:
7. Acting as a health care agent
Providers and patients (or their agents) don't talk enough. As an agent, you
will be responsible for working with providers to ensure that your loved one's
wishes, including preferences about end-of-life treatments, are honored. If
you become the decision maker for a loved one, take the following steps:
8. Understanding life-support
measures
Life support replaces or
supports a failing bodily function. When patients have curable or treatable
conditions, life support is used temporarily until the illness or disease can be
stabilized and the body can resume normal functioning. At times, the body never
regains the ability to function without life support.
When making decisions about specific forms of life support,
gather the facts you need to make informed decisions. In particular, understand
the benefit as well as the burden the treatment will offer you or your loved
one. A treatment may be beneficial if it relieves suffering, restores
functioning or enhances the quality of life. The same treatment can be
considered burdensome if it causes pain, prolongs the dying process without
offering benefit or adds to the perception of a diminished quality of life. A
person's decision to forgo life support is deeply personal. When gathering
information about specific treatments, understand why the treatment is being
offered and how it will benefit your care.
COMMONLY USED LIFE-SUPPORT
MEASURES:
9. Learning about pain
management
A common fear of both
terminally ill persons and their loved ones is that the dying person will
experience great suffering and pain. Many of us are more afraid of dying in pain
than of death itself. Pain should be treated as seriously as the disease. Pain
can significantly impair the quality of life of individuals, even causing them
to give up on living. A plan to manage pain should be as concrete as a plan to
manage the disease.
In most cases, severe pain and physical discomfort can be
managed through effective use of pain management and palliative care (symptom
control). This can be accomplished through medical means, such as medications
(narcotics and non-narcotics), surgery and nerve blocks, and non-medical means,
such as relaxation therapies, biofeedback, massage and good nursing care.Reasons
that many terminally ill patients experience a great deal of pain and suffering
include:
10. Glossary
Advance directive
:A general term that describes two kinds of legal documents,
living wills and medical powers of attorney. These documents allow a person
to give instructions about future medical care should he or she be unable to
participate in medical decisions due to serious illness or incapacity. Each
state regulates the use of advance directives differently.
Assisted suicide: Providing someone the means to commit suicide, such
as a supply of drugs or a weapon, knowing the person will use these to end his
or her life.
Brain death: The irreversible loss of all brain function. Most states
legally define death to include brain death.
Capacity: In relation to end-of-life decision-making, a patient has medical
decision-making capacity if he or she has the ability to understand the medical
problem and the risks and benefits of the available treatment options. The patient's
ability to understand other unrelated concepts is not relevant. The term is
frequently used interchangeably with competency but is not the same. Competency
is a legal status imposed by the court.
Do-not-resuscitate order: A DNR order is a physician's written order
instructing health care providers not to attempt cardiopulmonary resuscitation
(CPR) in case of cardiac or respiratory arrest. A person with a valid DNR order
will not be given CPR under these circumstances. Although the DNR order is written
at the request of a person or his or her family, it must be signed by a physician
to be valid. A non-hospital DNR order is written for individuals who are at
home and do not want to receive CPR.
Hospice
care: A program model for delivering palliative care to individuals
who are in the final stages of terminal illness. In addition to providing palliative
care and personal support to the patient, hospice includes support for the patient's
family while the patient is dying, as well as support to the family during their
bereavement.
Living will: A type of advance directive in which an individual documents
his or her wishes about medical treatment should he or she be at the end of
life and unable to communicate. It may also be called a "directive to physicians",
"health care declaration," or "medical directive." The purpose of a living will
is to guide family members and doctors in deciding how aggressively to use medical
treatments to delay death.
Medical power of
attorney: A document that allows an individual to appoint
someone else to make decisions about his or her medical care if he or she is
unable to communicate. This type of advance directive may also be called a health
care proxy, durable power of attorney for health care or appointment of a health
care agent. The person appointed may be called a health care agent, surrogate,
attorney-in-fact or proxy.
Palliative care: A comprehensive approach to treating serious illness
that focuses on the physical, psychological, spiritual, and existential needs
of the patient. Its goal is to achieve the best quality of life available to
the patient by relieving suffering, by controlling pain and symptoms, and by
enabling the patient to achieve maximum functional capacity. Respect for the
patient's culture, beliefs, and values are an essential component. Palliative
care is sometimes called "comfort care" or "hospice-type care."
Surrogate decision-making: Surrogate decision-making laws allow an individual
or group of individuals (usually family members) to make decisions about medical
treatments for a patient who has lost decision-making capacity and did not prepare
an advance directive. A majority of states have passed statutes that permit
surrogate decision making for patients without advance directives.
Withholding or withdrawing
treatment: Forgoing life-sustaining measures
or discontinuing them after they have been used for a certain period of time.
11.Resources
AIDS Hotline
1-800-342-AIDS (2437)
Operated by the Centers for Disease Control and
Prevention. Provides general information about AIDS and HIV, as well as
referrals to HIV testing facilities, medical services, counseling, and support
groups. There is someone available to answer calls 24 hours a day and they
maintain a national database of AIDS resources.
ALS Association
2101 Ventura Boulevard
Suite 321 Woodland, CA 91364
1-800-782-4747
Provides information
and educational materials about ALS (Lo Gehrig's Disease). They will provide
referrals to physicians, support groups, and drug trials.
Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders Association
919 N. Michigan Avenue
Suite 100Chicago, IL 60611
1-800-272-3900
Provides general
information on the disease and referrals to over 200 local association chapters
for specific services.
American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine
11250 Roger Bacon Drive,
Suite 8Reston, VA 20190-5202 703-787-7718
Fax: 703-435-5490
aahpm@aahpm.org
http://www.aahpm.org
Can provide referrals in many parts of the country to
physicians who specialize in palliative care. Can also direct professionals to
training programs for palliative care.
American Association of Retired Persons
601 E Street NW
Washington, DC 20049
1-800-424-3410
or 202-434-2277
Provides a wide range of services including counseling, advocacy, benefits,
and entitlement information; activities and assistance to people who are homebound.
American Pain Society
5700 Old Orchard Road
First Floor Skokie,IL 60077
847-375-4715
Association of pain
physicians. Provides referrals to pain facilities, physicians, and support
groups.
Cancer Care,
Inc.
1180 Avenue of the Americas
New York, NY 10036
1-800-813-HOPE (4673)
In New York, 212-302-2400
cancercare@aol.com
http://www.cancercare.org
Provides support groups, educational programs, and workshops
for cancer patients and their families. They operate a national referral
service, and counselors on staff provide assistance to callers. Cancer Care also
publishes Helping Hand, a useful resource guide for cancer patients and
others.
Cancer Information Service
1-800-4-CANCER (422-6237)
Has 19 offices across the country. Answers any question
related to cancer and Cancer treatment. Provides referrals to hospice, home
care, and support groups.
Genetic Alliance
(formerly The Alliance of Genetic Support Groups)
4301 Connecticut Avenue,
NW Suite 404 Washington, DC20008
1-800-338-GENE (4363)
or 202-966-5557
Fax: 202-966-8553
info@geneticalliance.org
http://www.geneticalliance.org
A nonprofit coalition of support groups, consumers, and
professionals dedicated to promoting the common interests of children and adults
with, or at risk for, genetic disorders. Specializes in linking people
interested in genetic conditions with organizations that can provide support and
information.
Partnership for Caring:
America's Voices for the Dying
National Office
1620 Eye Street, NW Suite 202
Washington, DC 20006
Phone:
202-296-8071
Fax: 202-296 8352
Hotline 800-989-9455
pfc@partnershipforcaring.org
www.partnershipforcaring.org
Advocates for the rights of dying patients, provides legal
and educational information about end-of-life decisions, and operates a
counseling service for people with questions and concerns related to the
implementation of advance directives and other end-of-life issues.
Hospicelink
1-800-331-1620
Provides general
information on hospice care and referrals to hospices across the country.
National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization
1901 N. Moore Street, Suite 901
Arlington, VA 22209
1-800-658-8898 (hospice referral)
703-243-5900 (other questions)
http://www.nho.org
Offers information, patient advocacy, professional
education, and referrals to hospice programs throughout the country.
National Self-Help Clearinghouse
25 W. 43rd Street,
Room 620 New York, NY 10036
212-642-2944
www.selfhelpweb.org
Part of a country wide affiliation of clearinghouses.
Provides referrals to self-help organizations; mutual-support groups; and other
national, state, local and community resources.
Visiting Nurse Association of America
11 Beacon Street,
Suite 910 Boston,MA 02108
1-888-866-8773
or 617-523-4042
Fax: 617-227-4843
Provides referrals to visiting nurse agencies nationwide and
supports visiting nurse agencies in their commitment to provide the most
effective, innovative, and personalized community-based care.
Call
Partnership for Caring: America's Voices for the Dying.
We have trained counselors who can help you navigate the health care system
and sort through the information you are receiving from health care providers
about end-of-life treatment decisions. If you hear something that is confusing
or that just doesn't seem right, call Partnership for Caring at (800) 989-9455.
We can help you understand the issues important to your situation.
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