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Sex
vs. Love
Love and sex
are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is
no one definition of love because the word "love" can
mean many different things to many different people. Sex, on the
other hand, is a biological event. Even though there are different
kinds of sex, most sexual acts have certain things in common. Sex
may or may not include penetration.
Differences Between Love and Sex
Love
- Love is a
feeling (emotional).
- There is
no exact "right" definition of love for everybody.
- Love involves
feelings of romance and/or attraction.
Sex:
- Sex is an
event or act (physical).
- There are
different kinds of sex but all kinds of sex have some things in
common.
- Can happen
between a male and a female, between two females, between two
males, or by one's self (masturbation)
Abstinence
The word for not having sex is called abstinence. Some people, especially
people who think it's not cool to wait to have sex, think that abstinence
is a completely bad thing. Actually, there are some really good
things about abstinence and some of them might apply to you.
- Abstinence,
or not having oral, vaginal or anal sex, is the best way to protect
yourself. It is possible to get an STD even without having intercourse
(penetrative sex) through skin-to-skin contact (herpes and genital
warts can be passed this way).
- You also
have to think about your own personal values and feelings. Your
teenage years bring a lot of changes in how you feel about yourself,
family, friends and potential love interests--even if you don't
think about sex. No matter what your feelings on sex are, it may
be smart to wait until something "feels right."
Ways to Express
Love Without Sex
There are millions of nonsexual ways to show someone you like them.
You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them.
Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone
you really like, then anything can be fun. There are other ways
to feel physically close without having sex. These ways include
everything from kissing and hugging to touching and petting each
other. Just remember that if you're not careful these activities
can lead to sex. Plan beforehand just how far you want to go, and
stick to your limits. It can be difficult to say NO and mean it
when things get hot and heavy.
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